When you learn to communicate clearly, you enhance your self-improvement. What you communicate to others about your motives, ideas, desires, and morals determines the concept of your personality in the minds of others.
However, what you say can sometimes come across different than what you mean to communicate. What others perceive can be determined from a combination of the ways in which you get your message across. This can include words, body language, tone, clarity of the message, and even your listening skills as you respond to what someone is saying back to you.
Changing your attitude will also help you communicate clearly and improve your self-improvement. Remember that your success can depend upon communicating effectively with other people. If you have been attempting to succeed in communicating merely with word choice, you may have failed again and again, for words are less effective than tones, and tones are less effective than body language.
When interacting with others, you should express yourself clearly and honestly. Anyone listening to you should have no question as to what you mean. Being clear is not always easy; therefore, speaking precisely has to be practiced. Use words to express your ideas. Use tone to express your feeling. Use only body language to express motives. Remember these tips and chances are you will not be misunderstood.
Most of the time when you communicate, you use
• body language.
You also communicate with the clothing you wear. Your overall appearance makes a profound statement. Another communication skill that is often overlooked and needs attention is listening.
Do you hear words, or do you really listen? Do you use a process of thinking or reasoning while listening to get the true meaning out of what is being said? Here is a breakdown of some communication components:
Where do you look when you are communicating with others? You should maintain good eye contact without staring at the other person. Don’t look at the floor or over the person’s shoulder. Don’t roll your eyes if you disagree with another’s words. People will notice if they see your eyes roll or your head move side to side while they are trying to communicate with you.
Remember that you disagree with what is being said, not with the person. During your next conversation, observe the eye contact made by others. Notice whether you feel intimidated or involved. Become aware of your eyes during communication. If you think you need to improve your eye contact skills, work on it. Habits can be changed with practice and perseverance.
What words do you use to express your ideas or to make a point? Use simple words that project the clearest understanding of the subject. It is not necessary to demonstrate your big word vocabulary, and many people who do this come across as trying to impress people more than trying to communicate with them.
Above all, do not use profanity. Using profanity to express yourself gives the impression that your vocabulary is very limited and you have to use fillers. Profanity can also shut down the lines of communication when others become offended by the words you use.
Words can provoke anger or words can soothe. Words are symbols. You will find that a one-word symbol can mean to you the sum total of a combination of countless ideas, concepts, and experiences, and the same can be true of the person you’re talking to.
You will also see the subconscious immediately communicates to the conscious mind through symbols. Through one word you can motivate others to act. When you say to another person “You can!” this is a suggestion. When you say to yourself “I can!” you motivate yourself by self-suggestion.
Choose words carefully. Remember, once words are out, you can’t take them back. Poorly chosen words can really hurt sometimes, so it’s better to err on the side of caution than to later regret what you said.
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